Suicide. Don’t hide it. Talk about it. That’s the key message of Suicide Prevention Week which runs from September 5-11 and aims to raise awareness of suicide, encourage people to talk about it openly and learn where to get support.
The good news is that within Tayside, the suicide rate has been falling: in the last five years there were 236 deaths by suicide in NHS Fife and 256 in NHS Tayside. But while statistics and trends are important, every suicide is a tragedy.
“Most people thinking about suicide do not want to die; they want to end the pain they are suffering,” says Marliese Richmond, planning and policy officer at Perth and Kinross Council.
“In many cases, help and support can make a difference and avert a tragic outcome. Listening to and supporting people in these circumstances can save lives,” she continues.
Dundee Samaritans has 60 years of listening experience Jo Ahern, chairperson, also suggests some ways of supporting those who are having a hard time or may need a listening ear.
“Small things, like making eye contact and putting away distractions like your phone will make a big difference to someone who is struggling,” Jo advises. “They may feel like they are all on their own with their troubles and thoughts, and your attention might be that one little thing that helps them feel more connected and less alone,” she continues.
“Samaritans try to avoid closed questions – ones that will only prompt a ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ reply, and we don’t interrupt or butt in – or offer advice or solutions. Don’t be worried or fazed by silence or gaps in the conversation. Silence gives everyone time to reflect and think.
“Just taking that moment to ask someone if they are OK is so worth it. And be ready for them to say ‘No, I’m not OK’. That is when you can offer to listen.”
For listening tips visit www.samaritans.org and www.suicidehelp.co.uk.
Local events to raise awareness for Suicide Prevention Week:
Dundee – September 7, 10am: a walk across the Tay Road Bridge.
September 10, 10am – 2pm: event in City Square with fun events for all.
Perth – September 7, 10am-2pm: community event in the city’s High Street. Come and find out how you can help prevent suicide.
Helpful tips
Talking about suicide does not put people at risk or give them the idea. It can be a relief to be asked about suicide and shows you care. Be direct and clear, such as: “Are you thinking about suicide?” or “Do you feel suicidal?”. Don’t use euphemisms such as “you’re not thinking of doing something silly?”. Do not delay in asking.
Do not dismiss what they are feeling. Show the person you care about them. Do not try to solve the person’s problems.
There are people out there who can help. Encourage the person to make an appointment with their GP. They could call Breathing Space (0800 83 85 87) or Samaritans (116 123). If the person has immediate suicide plans, and the means to carry it out, call 999. Keep yourself safe.
There are lots of suicide prevention training courses out there, many of them free. Find out more at www.chooselife.net
